5 Daily Reminders

Hey Folks,

I came across an article this week that talked about 5 important daily reminders for day to day living. I thought they were pretty cool, so I figured I would share and elaborate a little bit with you! 

1. You cannot change the past. 

2. Other's opinions of you do not define your reality. 

3. Positive thoughts cultivate positive actions 

4. Over thinking a problem will not solve the problem

5. You cannot make everyone happy. 

Pretty straight forward right? Well, maybe not so much! 

How do you accept something that is painful, but in the past? 

How do you learn to value your opinion of yourself more than others opinions of you? 

How can you cultivate positive thoughts when you feel like the world is crashing down around you? 

How can you stop over analyzing a problem without solving it? 

How can I be happy with my life choices if others aren't?

These are questions I have asked myself and had clients ask me.  The answer is, well it comes with hard work, honest self reflection, discipline and choice.

1. The past cannot be changed, but it can be learned from, gown from and evolved from. Try to reframe how you perceive/think about these past events, try to create a more empowering perspective, what did you learn from those situations? Difficult roads often lead to beautiful destinations. 

2. Opinions are often surface level, uneducated perspectives. They are normally built off one's own insecurities, and then projected onto others. So in reality, someone's opinion of you, actually has a lot more to do with them. "99% of of the opinions people hold about other people are projections of their own insecurities - Jordan Peterson. You know who you are, value it. 

3. Your thoughts control your emotions and your emotion fuels your behaviour. So if you continue to think shitty thoughts, you'll continue to feel shitty. Controlling your thoughts is easier said than done, especially when you experience mental health concerns. Try to name things you're grateful for. This tricks your brain into producing happy feelings. Even if all you can think of to be grateful for is the air that you're breathing,  hold onto it because it will change your mood. 

4. Stressing out about situations you have no control over is like rocking in a rocking chair trying to get across the road. It doesn't matter how hard or how fast you rock, you won't get across the road. Just like trying over analyzing a problem, it doesn't matter how much you stress about it, it won't create a solution. If you can fix it without negatively impacting your overall health and well-being, then do so. If you can't fix it, then choose to think about it/perceive it in a way that doesn't cause you to feel shitty, stressed or depressed about it. " It is what it is" is so much more powerful than it's given credit for. 

5. You aren't in control of anyone's happiness but your own. Just like nobody's control your happiness but you. If you live your life for someone else, chances are you're not fulfilling or satisfying your own values, beliefs and purpose in life. Trying to consistently manage others people's emotions takes away from being able to meet your own needs to create happiness. As long as the decisions you're making doesn't negatively affect yourself or the people around you, then continue to do what brings you purpose. We aren't all designed to be fulfilled, inspired and captivated by the same things in life. 

You deserve to create a life worth living.